Did you grow up with toxic, dysfunctional parenting as your ‘normal’?

Did you grow up with toxic, dysfunctional parenting as your ‘normal’?

If so, it can be hard for you to recognise.

Why?

In my own personal healing journey, and the work I do supporting clients on their journeys, I believe these factors are at play: awareness, denial and guilt.

Here are 25 examples of your mum or dad’s behaviours that are unhealthy, and actually emotional/psychological abuse…

Exercise to heal from a critical, judgemental parent

Although it’s easier to watch the video and tap along, here is the E.F.T. script should you prefer to read and tap instead:

Even though my mother criticises and judges me, and it hurts every time she does it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself (repeat another two times)

It upsets me when she’s critical and judgemental and condescending

Nothing’s ever good enough for her

I feel like I’m not good enough for her

I feel rejected

She’s always trying to bring me down

Which hurts me so much

And this runs right back into the past, through my childhood

So much hurt and sadness and rejection

So much anger and resentment

It doesn’t matter what I do, it’s never been good enough for her

It will never be good enough for her

It hurts when my mum judges and disapproves of me

That look of disapproval on her face

Those snide remarks and comments

I’ve got all these feelings of not being good enough

Never living up to her standards

Not being worthy in her eyes

All this pain and sadness

All the confusion and shame and blame

So much shame that I’m not good enough

I blame myself for not being good enough

All these painful memories and emotions

All the pain and heartache throughout my childhood

Younger me, my inner child, is still hurting

All she wants is her mum’s approval

And acceptance and love

All those times she put me down

And made me feel I wasn’t enough

Why did she have to do this to me?

I was so little

I was innocent

I didn’t do anything wrong

I just wanted my mum’s love

And I got criticism and judgement instead

I honour that younger part of me and everything she suffered now

I’m letting her know that she is safe

I accept her exactly as she is

I unconditionally love her

She is loveable

She is worthy

I approve of her

And I’m letting her know that the only approval she needs is her own

I am choosing to accept now that this is how my mum is

She has her own limitations

That are nothing to do with me

Her behaviour is actually nothing to do with me

I’m letting go of any expectations that she will change

I’m letting go of the past

I’m letting it all go now

I’m letting this go so that I can be free

I’m not a helpless child anymore

I am an adult and I make my own decisions

I am choosing to let the pain go

I am choosing to create my own boundaries

I get to choose what’s good for me

I get to choose what i will and won’t tolerate

Im choosing now to honour myself

I am choosing now not to let her criticism affect me

Because I approve of myself

I love and accept myself

And the more I love, approve and accept myself

The less I look for that outside of me

I am choosing now to heal that little girl within me

Letting her know that it is safe to let go of the pain

I am choosing now to let it go

I approve of myself

I validate myself

I support myself

I deeply and completely love and accept myself (repeat another two times)

7 signs you’re a people-pleaser or pushover… and why

7 signs you’re a people-pleaser or pushover… and why

If you had parents who were critical, judgemental, neglectful, unloving… or parents who were emotionally unavailable or physically absent, your inner child feels rejected and abandoned. S/he believes that you must do everything you can to make people happy, or they might leave or stop caring for you.

If your parent’s love for you was conditional (that is, offered or withheld dependant on your behaviour or achievements)… your inner child is desperate to please others in order to win their love.

If you were punished or criticised for mistakes growing up, your inner child is anxious and afraid of disappointing people and letting them down. S/he feels they must make sure they are doing things right by everyone else, and that everybody is pleased with the job they are doing.

Having a tough time? A channelled message for YOU

Having a tough time? A channelled message for YOU

A message channelled from Source, for you:

“…And I’m being shown that the reason we are going through this is that we are sort of acting like filters for the vibration of the whole planet.

Because humanity has been going through so much recently, and people have been feeling so flat and down, it’s as if there has been an ‘energetic earthquake’ and we are the ones receiving the brunt of that energy (intentionally), to act not just like buffers but to transmute that as well.

It’s like this tremor has shaken up so much of our old stuff, so that we can shift that out and then we become stronger, brighter conduits for healing energy for the rest of the world…”

13 ways parental abuse is still affecting your life

13 ways parental abuse is still affecting your life

Are you aware of how past abuse is affecting your present life?

Those experiences may be negatively impacting your relationships, the decisions you make, the abundance you attract, your confidence, happiness and quality of life…

How many of these behaviours are true for you?