You're not perfect, but you are

I dated a Christian, straight-edge vegan. At the time, I was a late night boozing wild child. And definitely not religious. My friends laughed and declared the relationship wouldn’t work, but it did. Ours was a beautiful union based on open communication, respect for all beliefs, and unwavering support of each other’s dreams – no matter how crazy. I’m so grateful for the relationship and everything I learned within that loving space.

I once commented to my love: “You’re perfect”. He responded, “Nobody’s perfect”. It took some discussion about what we each understood ‘perfect’ to mean, for me to realise we were stating the same thing in different ways.

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For me, perfection is who we are in each and every moment, perceived ‘flaws’ and all. I trust that at every point in time in the infinity of our lives, we are exactly who we are supposed to be. Perfect; with our idiosyncrasies, our illusions and our ideals. Perfect; with our doubts, our deliberations and our disputes. Perfect; with our fears, our falsehoods and our failures.

Perfectly imperfect, always.

We spend so much of our time judging who we are, where we are, where we’ve been and where we’re going.

When we embrace who we are, without judgement, sweet self-acceptance and peace floods into our lives. The persistent probing and self-loathing stops. The poisonous churning of past and future based fears in our minds subsides. We free up precious time to focus on the present moment, the only point in time that is real. Dwelling on the past and worrying about the future is a pointless waste of our energy. Past and future are merely projections; the only place they exist is inside our minds.

What would it mean for you to embrace yourself as perfect in each and every moment? What if you began to understand every ‘failure’ as a teaching? To see each ‘mistake’ as a valuable opportunity for growth? To accept every ‘shortcoming’ as a unique part of who you are – a child of God/Goddess, an irreplaceable extension of the Source of all creation, one of nature’s miracles?   

You are unlike any other person on this earth. Your very existence is sacred. Your unique, human self, exactly as you are in every moment, is truly perfect.

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Affirmations for self-acceptance

Repeat these as often as you can, until they become mantras that circulate in your subconscious. Write them down and stick them somewhere you’ll see them regularly. Set them as reminders on your phone that pop up during the day. Make up a tune and sing them to yourself as you go about daily activities.


“In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. All is well in my world” – Louise Hay

“I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

“My uniqueness is a blessing”

“I love myself unconditionally”

“My existence is sacred. I am a miracle”